Do your own push ups
Skills are valuable so do the hard work to build them.
When you’re going through tough times …
... see it as an opportunity to build your resilience. What doesn't kill you not only strengthens you but also those around you inspired by your ability to overcome adversity.
When you find yourself complaining about something …
... redirect your attention immediately to a personal or professional goal you're working on. Let complaining, yours or others, remind you to focus on your own development. You'll end up in a better mood because you'll forget why you're complaining or what you're complaining about. You'll also channel the energy you would have wasted complaining to achieve what you [...]
When you feel bad because someone else succeeds …
... change your focus, gain perspective and take action. It's hard to see others gain the successes you wish for yourself especially when you're doing all you can and giving your best effort. Because you see and know everything that you've been doing, it's natural to feel that you're doing more than others yet not receiving the [...]
To get what you want…
... take action to make yourself worthy of it. It's easy to spend time focusing on the rewards of success. We think about what we'll do and how we'll be once we get those rewards. Then our minds drift to those who already have the trappings of success and we dwell on and perhaps even envy their [...]
You’re not entitled to anything …
... doesn't matter how hard you work, how smart you are, how connected you might be, who your parents are, what you're doing now, etc. Where you are and what you have now is the result of your actions, your environment and your timing. If you feel that you deserve more, you're wrong. You are what you [...]
How to Reap the Benefits of Failure Without the Pain
For successful high performers, actually for anyone, failure hurts. Even in the "iteration age" where failure is reframed as a pre-requisite for success, it still stings when you fail, no matter how smartly you do so. But do you really need to fail in order to succeed? I don't think so... When you study failures closely, you can [...]
Work Smarter AND Harder
As a high performer, you probably work more than your peers. There is a good chance that you work more than most people that you know. I know how you feel and I confess that I used to feel guilty about working "too much". It stemmed from my belief that truly efficient people should finish a [...]